Pediatric, Neonatal RN, IBCLC, Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, IMPI, APSC, Holistic Sleep Practitioner, Co-Creator of Baby-Led Sleep, Toddler Parent Coach, Developmental Care Specialist & Conscious Parent Educator.
Sleep without Sleep Training
Advocating for babies & toddlers, changing the next generation one family at a time!
Human babies are complex, highly intelligent & emotional. The most fragile of all species, humans are born without the survival skills of other mammals. A baby's nervous system is hard wired to connect with their mother's nervous system, the mother-baby "dyad." They begin life using the right side of their brain and respond to emotionally available parents. Sleep is a vulnerable state where behavioral issues can arise as a result of what's happening during waking hours. Understanding that sleep is a natural process that is often inhibited by emotion, changes everything. Looking at sleep through a different lens, shifting the parenting paradym and uncovering the barriers that prevent your baby from peacefully surrendering to sleep! Sleep solutions do not require sleep training, your baby does not need to be conditioned or trained to sleep, you can practice responsive, peaceful parenting and still have sleep success.
Yes, this works & your baby will sleep again!
"Hi Shawnee! I just wanted to let you know that not only did S. completely SKIP the 8 month sleep regression, but we traveled on 2 separate occasions this summer for a full week each time and had zero issues returning home (the 1st week away was rougher on her but the 2nd was a total non event sleep wise). AND she's now 19 months old and no sign of the 18 month sleep regression. I'm so amazed. She got 8 teeth without nighttime waking. Learned to walk. Started to say words. Dropped a nap. All these huge developmental leaps and slept through them all. You helped me instill the most wonderful sleep habits!!! She sleeps 11 hours every night and naps for 2 hours each day. Biggest problem is she's a terrible car sleeper lol. Anyway thought I'd let you know you worked wonders. In the past 14 months she's required my nighttime assistance less than 10 times. A true miracle!" Thanks you so much, R. Levy
Flexibility, adaptability & resiliency must evolve from emotional safety in order for independent sleep to happen.
Sleep is a biological process, not a behavioral one. Behavioral sleep issues arise around sleep, when a baby or child's emotional needs remain unmet. Yes, babies & toddlers need a lot of emotional support, balancing the needs, while encouraging safety & security around sleep is the solution. We cannot train a child to sleep any more then we can train them to breathe. Like all milestones, sleep evolves over time and each stage must be mastered before moving onto the next.
Sleep becomes complicated when the factors that influence sleep are not addressed. When those milestones are not met or other factors come into play, such as reflux, feeding issues, birth trauma, sensitivities, colic, allergies, regulation imbalance, mom's emotional health, stress, anxiety, travel, illness or temperament, sleep becomes a problem. Finding solutions begins with identifying the areas of concern, working from the inside out, balancing the needs, adjusting feeds, adding sunlight, emotional connectedness, play, physical touch, stimulation, activity and emotional availability, before making changes to sleep.
Day-by-day these changes fill the night-time needs, reducing night wakings, providing emotional security, supporting down-regulating, empowering babies & toddlers, and then asking them to shift comfort zones at night. Holistic sleep work requires careful planning and an understanding of your baby's needs from their point of view. Before any behavioral strategy can be considered, it's important to identify the root of the problem and understand why your baby is resisting independent sleep. Babies dominant survival instinct is close proximity to mom. Working through this takes time.
Some babies have negative associations to bedtime, immature development of the nervous system, or early experiences that negatively affect sleep. Some may have switched to reverse cycling with feeds or are awake for long periods at night, identifying the cause is always the first step. Knowing what parenting style resonates most with you, is imperative to the process. My philosophy follows conscious parenting, with components of peaceful, gentle, respectful and leadership parenting styles.
As a parenting instructor and sleep coach I combine hands-on solutions with deeper awareness. By supporting mom's emotion, becoming aware of the synchronized emotional reaction and building connected relationships we can often solve sleep issues without any behavioral changes at all. Today’s generation recognizes the importance of healthy sleep for early brain development, emotional intelligence, attachment and trust. By proactively seeking professional advice for emotional development, early parent-child relationships, parenting challenges, nutrition and sleep support, you are giving your baby the very best! Children benefit emotionally, cognitively, and developmentally, when we are in balance with ourselves and emotional connections are the primary focus. The first three years are critical to a child's development, the ability to regulate emotions down the road begins with a deeper understanding and awareness. We know that overall happiness and academic performance is directly related to emotional intelligence. Emotional isolation is never an option!
Focused on connection vs disconnection, empathy & compassion, with an inner awareness that combines co-regulation & holistic sleep solutions, parent coaching for sleep, beyond strategies and behavior!
Beyond Sleep Coaching: The Journey to Conscious Parenting!
Blending the concepts of sleep science, nutrition, holistic sleep and conscious parenting has truly been a game changer! When you chose connection over disconnection, when you chose to "let go" of controlling your child, and when you decide to let your child evolve into the spiritual being they are, they will begin to teach you! By simply providing space to be fully expressive, to let them be who they are, not who you want them to be, by setting boundaries with respect and supporting the emotion. This is the blend of conscious parenting and sleep work! Aways"start" the way you intend to "finish!" Sleep results from letting go, babies find ways to settle to sleep when emotion is addressed first. Behavior and parent coaching for toddlers is also based on emotion, once again the solution lies within the relationship and discovering the root of the problem before applying strategies and limits. With this process things begin to flow so much easier!
For years, generations of parents have jumped in with both feet, unprepared for the journey of parenthood, navigating the trenches with“trial and error!” Today we have more options...
Experience and research makes a big difference! Providing hands on care to thousands of infants and toddlers over the past twenty years, spending countless hours teaching families, supporting babies and understanding their needs, has provided me with tremendous insight, a gift many other professionals never get to see. It was through my career as a NICU nurse that the need for professional parenting support became clear. Parenting is the most important job you’ll ever have! The need for Advanced Nurturing was evident and helping parents with sleep solutions using emotional wellness, positive reinforcement and optimal nurturing became my mission. My personal journey with my middle son as a young baby and toddler, taught me some of my hardest lessons. Experiencing the journey as a mom, while applying my knowledge as a professional, an educator and a sleep coach I can tell you the books don't have all the answers! Because of Tristan, I can relate exactly to what my clients are experiencing, I've been there!! Tiny humans can be complex!!