Emotion and Sleep Solutions

Sleep is a biological process, not a behavioral one. Behavioral sleep issues arise around sleep, when a baby or child's emotional needs remain unmet. Yes, babies & toddlers need a lot of emotional support, balancing the needs, while encouraging safety & security around sleep is the solution. Conscious parenting helps parents understand how their own emotional past plays a role in their child's developing emotions. We cannot train a child to sleep any more then we can train them to breathe. Like all milestones, sleep evolves over time and each stage must be mastered before moving onto the next. 

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Baby-Led Sleep Solutions!

I began the journey of sleep consulting as a parent educator, lactation consultant, pediatric and NICU RN. I wanted to apply the methods used for developmental care concepts in the NICU, and emotional wellness through conscious parenting to the principles of sleep work. Through my own experience, years of education, extensive parenting, and sleep courses, I began to see what was missing for so many parents. There was a conflict between nurturing parenting practices and achieving healthy sleep. Main stream sleep solutions were all about "training" your baby and using cry-based methodologies to achieve results. With the focus on controlling behavior through disconnection, rather than being attuned to your child and supporting them emotionally. This was not in line with my parenting philosophy and the need for alternative sleep solutions was born. 

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Sleep Coaching and Tears

I know my baby needs sleep but how can I support the tears?

When you have a sleep association between nursing, rocking, bouncing and sleeping or anything else in fact, it starts to interfere with your baby’s natural ability to self soothe which ultimately interferes with sleep! You must first teach the skills for happy sleep and apply the positive connections. Balance the schedule, improve the environment and practice emotional wellness during the day, before moving towards eliminating the associations you don't want at night! By helping your baby find another way to sleep, trading one association for another and shifting their comfort zone slowly, you can promote healthy sleep without assistance and support any tears!!

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Sleepy Signs in Babies!!

If you're a parent you've heard the term many times! "Watch for the sleepy cues!" Many parents get confused and wonder what exactly it is they are looking for? Yawning and eye rubbing are late signs for a sleepy baby, and crying is often way too late! Here's the scoop on the "sleepy" signals and how to understand them.

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Private Schools and Baby Sleep Solutions?

I decided to write this post to share with other mom's the experience I've had raising my own children in a highly competitive world and why sleep and emotional wellness are more important than ever for young babies and toddlers today. Relationship foundations and internal working models of the brain, are set for life during these early years. A child's ability to cope with adversity and to have a strong sense of self worth is linked to the interactions they experience before they can even speak. These foundations need to be strong and babies need to feel emotionally secure in order to adapt to the academic demands they will inevitably encounter down the road.

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Bedtime Routines!! What's the Big Deal?

Along with my professional experience, I'm also a mom to three great kids! I've been where you are many times and had the same bedtime struggles you're having! Today, I get asked the same question over and over from clients and friends; "How do I manage bedtime? "Many families begin to feel anxious as bedtime approaches and anticipate a challenge from their toddler. The biggest issue is managing your expectations and creating a calm peaceful home. Believe it will go well every time and project those emotions onto your child, while maintaining a confident and consistent approach. Keeping parents on track is truly the biggest issue! When you’re tired, worn out, had enough of negotiating and just want to give up, you often send mixed messages and become inconsistent. Little ones need you to set these boundaries and make them clear. Another little piece of advice, communicate what you want them to do and minimize the use of the word "no!" See how this simple trick changes your approach and how empowered you feel as a parent. 

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Is your Baby Overstimulated?

Our brains are hard wired to learn specifically from our caregivers. Like primates, we are genetically designed to mimic others and watch behaviors closely. Babies who have more personal “one-on-one” interactions and less bucket time, are better equipped to handle adversities. Having primary caregivers cannot be emphasized enough! Parents and nannies play a significant role in a child’s early development. These bonds are imperative for infant mental health.

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At your Wits End?

Overwhelmed with information and conflicting advice, parents often turn to professionals to solve their sleep issues. When it comes to getting healthy sleep there’s a lot to consider! Many parents look for answers in sleep books and attempt common sleep methodologies without success. Besides removing sleep associations parents need to consider other factors such as emotional wellness, biology, behavior, nutrition, activity, play, exercise, developmental stage, temperament, and parenting styles. The logistics of the family and the unique dynamics involved, plays a key role in how children sleep. Although parents come to me with the goal of better sleep, the bigger goal ultimately, is for optimal brain development and emotional wellness!

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Understanding Your Baby's Language

Babies cry to communicate but also to release emotion. As they mature emotion becomes stronger but remains unregulated. They cannot control the feelings and often are simply unable to stop crying without help. After six months of age babies cognitively develop “wants” as well as needs. They have no other way to express these wants and so crying becomes confusing. You must decide if the cry is emotional, need based or a want. Either way it is communication and you must respond somehow. Knowing how to respond is the key to success.

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