Yep! That's right, you're hearing that from a sleep coach!!
My life was hectic and crazy back then, I have several excuses for why we ended up that way but I'll spare you the details! My first son was an angel baby, he slept well and was very easy going. I remember some issues in the toddler years but honestly, not many. Then my second son was born, my challenging little boy! The one who would eventually lead me to this career. He has tested me in so many ways, both as a mother and as a professional. He was labeled a "high needs" baby and of course he didn't sleep!! I was the breadwinner at the time, and focused on my career more than I wish I had. I just didn't have the time to teach him how to sleep, or really to teach him anything. My nanny did the teaching for me. As a result I ended up with him sleeping beside me, night after night and everyone was exhausted.
My daughter was another story, an easy baby, but not an easy time for me as a mom. I co-slept with her mainly for convenience and breastfeeding, until it wasn't so convenient anymore! when it came time to move her to her room she was old enough to challenge me and the marshmallow of a mom I am, simply just gave in!! Was that the best solution? Definitely not!! I needed a sleep coach, someone to help me through every protest and challenge. Someone to be the boss when I wasn't strong enough, someone to lead the way and coach me through it! Each situation for me was unique and each child was very different, how I managed one, was not the same way I managed the other two. The reason I'm sharing this with you is to let you know that every baby needs to raised differently and with different experiences at different times. Given this knowledge it's clear to see why a personal sleep plan is necessary in order to have long term success.
Looking back I wish I had taken the time, made the effort, spent the small amount of money and found that little bit of extra energy to work with a coach to sleep train my babies. Those years are so precious and getting through them completely exhausted has left me with only foggy, distant memories. I struggle to remember those first steps, first tooth, first words. I can't go back and I can't do it all over again, but knowing now what I didn't know back then, has given me the clarity to help others and to find a better solution.
Your baby not only deserves the best of you, but deserves to have proper healthy sleep. They deserve the best start in life and the best opportunity to learn and capture experiences. Instead of feeling awake and refreshed, ready to take on each day, I was a zombie and as a result not nearly the mom I wanted to be. My children were often fussy or hyper-active and a challenge to engage in quiet play and early learning. I often wonder what a difference it would have made in their lives had I chosen a different path, given more time to them and provided better sleep! One thing I know for sure is that I did my very best, given what I knew at the time! When you know better, you do better.
After twenty years of caring for critically ill babies and teaching parents the skills they need to be successful, I've learned a lot! My focus now is to improve the opportunity for learning and personal interaction between parents and babies during the early years when it really counts. To help babies reach their full potential and to provide the education and support to help families achieve their own parenting goals! By proactively managing sleep, nutrition, emotion, environment and discovery play, parents can enjoy those special years and prevent those memories from being so foggy. By sharing my wisdom, education and experience, while managing sleep through nurturing, science, and research I can help you find your way. Don't make the mistakes I made, you both deserve better!!