Mom, Pediatric/ Neonatal Registered Nurse, Parenting Instructor & Educator, Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, Holistic Practitioner, Lactation Consultant, Developmental Care Specialist, Certified in Infant Mental Health, Intensive Professional Hand-in-Hand Parenting, and Conscious Parenting. Owner & Founder, Co-Creator of Baby-Led Sleep TM
A Parenting Journey, Beyond Baby Sleep!
Sleep begins with building connection, deeper relationships build stronger connections that create safety and security for your child. Children will avoid disconnection at all costs. As adults we often lose sight of what connection really means. I wasn't connected to myself, in fact, I didn't even know what that meant. I was self-critical and demanded perfection. Compassion and self-care wasn't a part of my vocabulary. It didn't apply to me, I didn't really understand the need for it, I believed that strong women didn't need self-care or support. In fact, asking for help meant that I had failed, that I was somehow not a good enough, that I was weak and helpless....or so I thought. I struggled with happiness, parenting, marriages and self-love. Being hard on myself was the only thing I knew, in fact it was expected. I was a perfectionist and high achiever, exceptional was the only acceptable option for me. I was proud of my external accomplishments but those didn't bring me happiness or true joy. Life was very stressful and just as I began to understand how this affected everything, I wasn't connected to myself, and didnt truly know my essence. Several years ago, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. The years of stress, lack of compassion for my inner child, denying my true spirit and the absence of self-love had taken it's toll. Fortunately, I have fully recovered and remain cancer free. My life has changed and I now recognize the importance of self-love and compassion, not just for myself but for my family. Today, my passion for helping other moms has never been stronger. It was around this time when I met Dr. Sheflai and began to understand what was really going on and how the relationship with myself was affecting my health and my children. I finally understood that loving myself was the first connection to my children and as much as I thought I was truly connected to them, I wasn't. Children can feel so much more than we realize, it's not about the "doing" it's all about the "being." I began to explore the relationship between conscious parenting and sleep challenges in babies and toddlers. And that's where the break through happened! We often wish we could have another start to our parenting journey, a "do over"... but I want you to know that it's never too late.
Combining parenting philosophies with a gentle approach to sleep challenges, while discovering the emotional path towards connected relationships is my mission. With over twenty years of experience as a Neonatal & Pediatric RN, I have spent a lot of time with babies. An alternative approach to main stream sleep methodologies in todays generation is a must! We know so much more about the long term benefits of connected parenting. Through sleep foundations, conscious parenting and emotional wellness, the focus of my work is to build safety and security for your child. Through connected relationships we teach children about healthy expression of emotion, before we ask your child to shift your comfort zones. Through a deeper awareness of "what's really going on," we look at the co-regulation between mom and baby to support down-regulating, creating an awareness of energy levels, emotional healing and mindfulness practices. Through this approach we are often we are able to achieve the goal of independent sleep without tears, but healthy expression of tears in the arms of a loving parent is never avoided. I offer many options to my clients to learn more about integrated sleep solutions and parent coaching. Consider sleep work the doorway to your parenting journey. It is so important that the first skill you teach your child is in-line with your parenting path. Emotional skills should come before sleep, and relationship always come before managing any behavior. Having worked with toddlers in the pediatric care setting for many years with complex emotional challenges, including early crisis intervention, I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that emotion is the key to success!
With an advisory team of pediatricains, therapists, child psychologists, lactation consultants, early childhood educators, fellow parent coaches and sleep consultants, a wealth of knowledge is always available. Utilizing the services of professional counsel among several of peers and colleagues, the most challenging cases can be assessed through a team approach. Dr. Jessica Escott PsyD is available to all my clients and offers counsel in person or by Skype/phone. She provides a complete assessment for complex cases needing further support and free 30min consultation for moms with PPD or PPA. I also refer clients to Dr. Patricia Barros, Pediatrician and Parent Coach specializing in conscious parenting for families beyond the age group I work with. When possible, I encourage parents to reach out to Dr. Shefali, however her wait list is extremely long.
Most importantly, remember that I am also a mom! The greatest lessons in my life have been taught to me from my own children. They are in fact, the ones with the most wisdom, who were sent to me with a purpose. Each of them bringing me a unique gift to allow me to see the parts of my self that I was once unable to recognize. They are the ones who have helped me evolve and become aware of my true path. Although the most rewarding job in the world, parenting can also be the most challenging. Often one of your children will shine a light on your soul that no one else will, they will push your buttons and trigger you like no one else, this is the gift. Look deeper and embrace it, let's remove the buttons so they no longer exist for him to push. My middler son with his spirited nature, gifted abilities, sensory processing, high needs temperament and later, the development of OCD, who challenged me the most. Tristan was my spiritual guide, the one who was there to awakened me and help me see life through a different lens. Through my son I discovered my purpose. Many have told me, "You were meant to do this line of work." I believe that, when you're passionate about something and give from the heart, you will love what you do and will be the very best at it!