A Journey Beyond Sleep....
An overwhelming amount of advice and information in a world full of data, leaves us feeling disconnected from our own natural instincts.
Hundreds of families seek professional services to assist them with sleep coaching everyday. Main stream sleep support involves "sleep training" or behavioral approaches to solve a sleep problem without addressing the real issues that cause sleep challenges to evolve. Sleep is often the first parenting challenge that requires us to explore and evaluate our parenting beliefs and practices.
When working with families I always ask parents what kind of relationship they wish to have with their child? Although behavioral methodologies work, one must question what message you are sending and if this is the relationship you wish to create.
Studying under the teachings of Dr. Shefali, taking course after course, reading book after book and mentoring with her team, I have been amazed with the transformation through consious parenting. It has truly been the game changer for my practice, blending Dr. Shelfi's concepts with practical sleep solutions, combining my extensive knowledge in baby and toddler development, as well as implementing the tools from hand-in-hand parenting, peaceful parenting, and authentic parenting practices gives parents the skills to make lasting changes for their family.
Beginning with the foundations that influence sleep, we make changes to ourselves as parents, as well as to the environment in order to help solve the sleep puzzle. Connecting, topping up the emotional bank account, balancing the day, evaluating stress reactivity, adding developmentally appropriate choices, and setting gentle limits are all in the plan. Using positive affirmations to empower babies and toddlers, play, role modeling and pairing associations for emotional attachments also improve outcomes. Lastly, defining boundaries within the parent first, identifying emotional projection, reflecting on emotional patterns in the family, shifting comfort zones and removing the layers that prevent consolidated sleep with the right emotional energy, internal shift and state of mind to create a very different response.
While remaining emotionally available to your child you can remove the concern of intermittent reinforcement and shift away from old paradigms that use reward and punishment. Trading one sleep association for another is also helpful for keeping stress levels down. My approach focuses on balancing your baby's needs, maximizing the ingredients that promote the parent-child connection, establishing a safe leader, accepting the "as is" and allowing emotional expression, while avoiding fight or flight. Together, we can help your baby learn to let go and “feel good” about sleep.
Beyond Sleep...Parent Coaching to help you solve the biggest challenges of raising a small child!
As the co-creator of Baby-Led Sleep, a member of Limor Weinstein's parent consulting group, affiliated with Lucy Consulting, Pre-Conceive, Building Connected Communities, Conscious parenting and "the bump" magazine, I am happy to refer you to professionals when needed, who are the best in the industry for further support with feeding issues, nutrition, occupational therapy, sensory issues, pediatric dietitians, naturopaths, complete nanny placement services and vetting, child psychologists, family therapists, health coaches and additional parent coaching professionals.
Many families question the necessity of paying for a sleep coach and wonder if they can tackle sleep on their own.
Sleep can be managed without extra help, but for many families they often apply a method without knowing what the outcome looks like, why it works or if it's the right time and right method for their child. When applying a method it makes sense to balance the needs and to follow sleep science rules first, if you are missing the other five components of healthy sleep you may not reach your goal. There may be subtle signs that contribute to these sleep issues and figuring out the root of the problem is necessary for long term success. Sleep disturbances can re-occur, over and over again and seem confusing. Sleep is just the tip of the iceberg and methods only work when everything else is well balanced.
For some parents, having a child who wakes through the night up until the age of five or six is often not worth the risk. For other families, children who wake until age five or six and co-sleep with the family are th norm. Each family has a different need and expectation. When you consider a sleep coach, make sure they line up with your values and parenting philosophies. The cost you pay for several years of night sleep, improved emotional coaching skills, stronger relationhsips and deeper connections, along with better health and well-being for your baby, is well worht it!
When you compare the cost it is equivalent to a couple of dinners out, a nice hair cut, a month of dog walking, a gym mebership or week-end getaway in a nice hotel. When you think about how important sleep, emotion and relationships are, the investment makes perfect sense.
Just as you would pay for music lessons, gym classes or an education for your little one, outsourcing sleep services is a big decision. Know the credentials of your sleep coach and ask for referrals. Your coach is like a family therapist and will work very closely with you for a few weeks, be sure you have a good fit. Although you may prefer a coach with doctorate in sleep or a PhD, often someone with many years in the trenches, experience with multiple families, and a well rounded background in parenting can help you navigate the journey best.
A written sleep plan without day-to-day support and coaching may not get you the same results!
Personal trainers benefit their clients by supporting and encouraging them along the way, tweaking plans to suit the target areas and adjusting along the way. Sleep coaching is very similar, if you are an exhausted parent who needs reassurance and guidance during this difficult stage of parenting, and someone who can clearly see where the issues are please consider adding the extra hours of coaching. This is money well spent. My job is to support you, teach you, reassure you and help you problem solve your baby or child’s sleep and behavior while addressing the needs along the way, even through the most challenging moments!
**All aspects of Advanced Nurturing are evidence based and safely implemented to provide a positive outcome. Methods used are supported by child psychologists, pediatricians, attachment parenting specialists and holistic sleep practitioners throughout North America. As always, the AAP guidelines are followed 100% at all times. Emotional wellness and building relationships are the focus and align with research & guidelines from infant mental health and attachment theory. The practice of conscious parenting as an educator is supported by founder, Dr. Shefali. Dr. Shefali - Awaken Yourself to a World of Change with Dr. Shefali Studies have shown that previously established methods, now used in Advanced Nurturing, accelerate the emotional and cognitive ability of young children and significantly improve the relationship between parent and child.